THE BEST IN LIFE, IS UP TO YOU

I am here to tell you this. If you just started out in a relationship and you are having a difficult time, then chances are you are not the main course in the relationship.  If a person is not trying to be with you, then understand why. There are many tell tales signs, that you are in a booty call relationship. Here are a few red flags; You are not meeting friends, family, or anybody intimate to your partner. You are a late-night date not to be seen or heard of. Then you are an undercover, off the scene, booty call.  I am not trying to hurt anyone’s feelings, but the truth is the truth. Don’t act coy, you know the deal, and you know when it doesn’t feel right.  Now there are some people that do not mind being a late-night/booty call because they are not looking to be in an exclusive relationship.  If that is what you’re into, then have at it.  If you have your head in the clouds and think he/she calls you late at night because they miss you, please understand that their person is either working all night or live in another city and they need the natural human thing (sex).  Understand and recognize the signs. If you are not receiving consistent calls, and being asked out on public dates, then chances are you are the late-night call. Ok if you think you are in a relationship, better take off the blinders.  Sit down and think about the nature of your relationship.  Does he/she call you on a regular basis? Does he/she he come over during dinner time or take you out to dinner? Do you plan events together? Do you know who his/her friends are?  If this is not the criteria, you are a late-night call. If you are willing and understand the role of your relationship, then the better off you are in your mind.  If you feel you have the potential for a real relationship, but your partner does not reciprocate those same feelings, it is basically a lost cause. Chances are, they have someone already.  If you understand your boundaries, then continue if you care to.   Just remember that what is done is darkness can sometimes come to light.  Understand and recognize what role you play in the relationship.  If you feel that you can be the main course, then you should.  Before you drink hot tea, just know you can be scorched.  Do not act like you don’t know, because you do.  As much of do not like to admit it, we have at one point or another, been the late-night call simply because we wanted to be with that person, and it did not matter how we got the company. So, if things are not panning out the way you think they should be, then if you look inside your soul. You know the deal. You probably are a late-night call.

Let me preface this blog by saying that the following is my opinion. I am so very saddened by the events that took place on Electoral Day. The day that Congress certifies the President Elect and Vice President Elect as the official next President and Vice President of the United States.  As I sat and stared at the television, looking at the horrendous siege of the Capitol, I began to cry in outrage at what I was seeing. That a sitting President of The United States not only allowed such a thing to take place but incited it as well. OMG!!! What is this madness?  Why is this being allowed to take place.  We in the United States have never seen anything like this before in our time. This sitting President has tried to undermine this democracy by saying we had a fraudulent election. Which was unfounded by every court that was presented by his lawyers in his lawsuits. It is not surprising that we have a divide in the country, but I love this country for its resilience, loyalty, and steadfast ways.  My heart is so heavy. I am aware that everyone has different opinions, ideas, and beliefs, but this is not how you express those personal beliefs. Threatening the lives of our Congress members because they disagree with the results of the Presidential election was an attempt at futility. The election was already certified. Electoral day at Congress was just a formality. The outcome would not have changed. I am not versed in political matters; however, I do know that as a citizen of this land, I have the right to have my voice heard by participating in the voting process to elect officials that I deem will do the job to help the people of this country, and to protect people’s civil liberties. What has this President done to us all?  What we saw was madness. These insurrectionists scaled the walls of the Capitol, broke windows, destroyed and stole property, and created chaos.  How could something like this happen in this country?  Do see now, what is going on? America, please wake up to being more humanistic.  We have got to respect each other's differences, but please let us not harm one another anymore.  Please stop the racism and disparity and treat people as people.  We are humans first. We cannot all be the same. God made us in his image, but he made us diverse. Living together as humans, not by race, color, or creed.  What I have seen in these past four years, more than anything is a great disparity in humanity and the treatment of people of color being extinguished because of their race and/or creed.  Will this sitting President be held accountabile for the violence he initiated? Will everyone associated with the debacle at the Capitol also be held accountable? Will the leadership of the Capitol police for its unpreparedness also be held accountable? The incoming administration already has a lot on their plate. I pray for them.  I want to thank my employer, the Metropolitan Police Department for their diligence in handling the mayhem and keeping their professionalism intact.  I would also like to thank Mayor Bowser, the DC Mayor, and the new incoming Police Chief Contee for their expertise, resilience, professionalism in keeping the citizens safe.  I pray for a new beginning.

Happiness has no definitive definition. In my eyes, it is your own personal situation. You can feel enriched by what you think makes you happy, and how your happiness shapes your life. My happiness comes from my own perception of what I deem to be uplifting and satisfying. For instance, I love cooking. There are specific recipes that I pour myself into, taking my time and putting all the ingredients together to finish that most excellent dish. That is my happiness at that moment. My happiness comes with so many variables it depends upon the situation. My happiness comes from within me and my strength of enriching myself with as much goodness that I can muster. I feel that everyone must make their own happiness. Everything that makes me happy is not the shared opinion of others but of my own personal persona. I feel the most important thing about being happy is up to who you are and your situation. If you feel a bit of unhappiness, you must find a way to modify your thinking and incorporate some real change for real happiness. Stop thinking that your problems are embedded, and you can’t change the behavior or negativity that you have lived with for so long. You can begin to figure out who you are if you ask yourself some questions about yourself and then find the answer in your soul. If you want happiness take baby steps in making changes toward making yourself happy. Happiness in my opinion, is not materialistic but spiritualistic. It is a state of mind. I feel that happiness starts in the mind and leads to the heart. Of course, there will be days of sorrow but for the most part if you are happy, you will feel fulfilled. You can make things happen for the betterment of your life. Don’t base your happiness on someone else’s happiness. They are living their lives and you must live yours. Just sit down and search within yourself. Let go of your misery and find the peace and happiness that lies within you.

Happiness is having no definitive definition, in my eyes, it is your own personal situation.  You can feel enriched by what you think makes you happy, and how your happiness shapes your life.  My happiness comes from my own perception of what I deem to be uplifting and satisfying.  For instance, I love cooking specific recipes because I pour myself into what I enjoy cooking and I take my time putting all the ingredients together to finish the dish.  This is my happiness at that moment.  My happiness comes with so many variables it depends upon the situation.  My happiness comes from within me and my strength of enriching myself with as much goodness and I can muster.  I feel everyone must make their own happiness.  All things that make me happy is not the opinion of others but my own personal persona.  I feel the most important thing about being happy, is own up to who you are, and be happy with you.  If you feel a bit of unhappiness, you must find a way to modify your approach to incorporate some real happiness.  Stop thinking that your problems are embedded, and you can’t seem to change the behavior of negativity you have lived with for so long.  You can begin to figure out who you are if you ask yourself some questions, and then find the answer in your soul.  If you want happiness, make changes in baby steps if you are willing make yourself happy.   Happiness in my opinion, is not materialistic but spiritualistic because I feel you must make your heart happy. Of course, there will be days of sorrow but for the most part if you are happy, you feel fulfilled, and you can make things happen for the betterment of your life.  Don’t base your happiness on someone else happiness, they are living their lives and you must live yours.  Just sit down and search yourself.  Let go of your misery and find peace and happiness that lies in you.

No, I am not a guy but at times I like to do guy things and one is having a great cigar, paired with a great tasting whisky brand.  But check this out. Times have changed, and more women have become cigar aficionados of the leaf. There’s nothing like relaxing on a stormy night or cool brisk evening with a great tasting cigar.  I have been around men for a long time who have enjoyed cigars, and I liked the aroma of them never thinking at all, I would wind up dabbing in cigars.  I began with an infused cigar which is a cigar that is infused with flavors such as fruits or even chocolate. I wasn’t sure if I could handle a straight cigar because I felt it may have been too strong.  Although I like infused cigars, I began to explore the real taste of cigars.  I discovered for myself a mild tasting cigar called Romeo Y Julieta 1875 or CAO Gold, I love the taste of these cigars.  These cigars brands have a smooth mild taste.  Since I was beginner of smoking cigars back in the late 1990’s I was introduced to this brand of cigars and have been hooked ever since.  While I have smoked other smooth cigars, such as Oliva, or Macanudo Café, my go to is Romeo Y Julieta and CAO, these cigars agree with my palate and give me a sense of relaxation when I have them.  I would consider myself a light cigar smoker because I do it when the mood hits me.  Now when the mood strikes me, I need to pair my cigar with a nice tasting whiskey brand. It just makes the cigar taste even better.  I like paring my cigar with a good tasting scotch or bourbon.  I love a single malt, Johnnie Walker Blue because of its smooth smokey taste, I love to drink it neat (no ice), so I can taste the flavor along with the combination of my cigar.  Sometimes you can add a few drops of water so it can really open the flavor, as the water and scotch combine. It depends upon what a person may desire for their palate. I don’t believe in adding ice to a drink like Johnnie Walker Blue because it distorts the flavor of the whiskey. Some may like to add ice, but you will be disturbing the flavor of such a beautiful whiskey.  I am not saying you cannot mix it. You can, but if you want to mix, you can do what is call a “highball”. Fill a tall glass with lots of ice, two shot glasses of scotch, a mixer of your choice, and garnish with lemon, lime or orange and enjoy. There are really no rules, just preference.  It depends on what you enjoy, I just prefer mine neat.  One thing about whiskey is that it can be enjoyed in so many ways. So, whether you want it sweet, spicy, sour, or bitter, you make that choice.  Whiskey is what you make it for your style and taste.  A good tasting cigar paired with a good tasting whiskey is like music to my ears when I am in the mood for a good relaxing moment.   Fellas and ladies who enjoy a good smoke and a good tasting whiskey, I’m sure you can appreciate my groove…. Ladies and Gents, enjoy your smoke with a smooth whiskey and tell them, lifestyle is a state of mind of endless pleasures.

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I am believer that men and women can be sexy and handsome. If you take care of yourself, you can age like fine wine. I am always stressing that eating things that keep your body healthy and striving is way to maintain your life and health.  I don’t care if you eat a big helping of macaroni and cheese, pizza, hamburgers, French fries, ice cream, cookies, and cake but please do all of this in moderation.  I have not talked about the main idea of my blog in a while, but your lifestyle depends upon you. You can’t expect to continuously eat these comfort foods and think that you won’t develop some clogged arteries, diabetes, obesity, kidney problems, etc. These types of foods should be eaten in the capacity of a barbeque, Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter and/or special occasions. If you make a habit of eating like this daily, your body is going to talk to you. I know I am guilty of eating what I want and how I want, but my body tells me if I’ve gained some weight because I start to feel uncomfortable and sluggish.  I am also guilty of not doing my exercises on a continuous flow, but I do stretch every day to maintain some flexibility in my joints and overall body. The summer is here, and I know the foodies out there are going to do their thang and grill, fry and you use a lot of grease to deep fry the fish, chicken, turkey, etc. When it’s hot, you want to keep hydrated and eat foods that are light, so you won’t feel like an overstuffed turkey while sweating and digesting food. I don’t know about you, but I eat very light during summer months because I don’t want to feel sleepy at a picnic while the sun is beaming, and you feel like sleeping off all the food you consumed in the hot sun. Eat a lot of fruit, drink a lot of water, and eat as light as you can especially on extremely hot days.  Your heart, kidneys and other vital organs must work harder. Try to have a healthy summer and listen to your body. Do all the right things to keep your body healthy.  My motto is “Health is what matters above all the rest.”  Without that, nothing really matters because you will have setbacks without it. So please maintain your health by eating and drinking (alcohol) in moderation.  Yes, the summer is here and it’s time for all the good stuff including the hot weather, fun and all that jazz. Just don’t overindulge and make yourself regret it later.  I cannot stress enough to drink plenty of water. If you don’t like straight up water, throw some blueberries, strawberries, pineapples in your water bottle and drink up. Try eating more leafy green vegetables, such as spinach, kale, collard greens or cabbage. You need those vegetables to keep your body moving in the right direction.  These are my tips for the most wonderful summer…

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I have learned so many things about this thing called Life.  I have learned that life is what you make it.  You cannot change the way people perceive you.  You must strive for the best in life, and it is totally up to you in how you move through it.  I have always gone the extra mile to accomplish my goals and always have been driven to give society, a well-rounded individual who has an open mind, a kind spirit, and is motivated.  I have had my share of bumps and bruises along the way and have learned many things. Of course, I have do my shortcomings. I don’t have a big ego, but my ego is intact, and I keep an objective mind.  I know that at times I can have an attitude but that’s because I’m a very emotional person and sometimes I take things too seriously. I also have high positive energy and I love my whole self.  There are many people in my life who adore me, love me, like me, and sadly envy me.  I’ve always been a striver for the good things in life, such as good food, good living, good wine, and good people.  I am not a phony by nature, I am a loyal friend and partner.   I have many friends and acquaintances who do not find it hard to be in my presence. This is because I bring positive energy to the room. I believe my attractiveness in my aura makes me stand out more.  I have had several loves in my life, and I am blessed to have known love and now found a new love.  Here’s the whole thing in a nutshell, I am who I am, and if you choose to be in my life and accept me as I am, you are welcome.  If you are envious, jealous, or have any negative vibes, then you can keep it moving and stay moving. This life of mine does not have any room for negativity. Your application has been rejected.  Only genuine, and positive people need to apply to be a part of my life.  Life is too short. Let God be your guidance because he sure is mine.